DIARY OF HER LIFE

In the Name of Allah, the most Gracious, the most Merciful

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In love? We call it love. It feels like love.With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we’re choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature’s lovely plan.

Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone, Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather

  55% is through body language

  38% is the tone and speed of their voice

  Only 7% is through what they say

The 3 stages of love

 Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals.

 stage 1st: Lust

This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.

 Stage 2: Attraction

This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.

 Stage 3: Attachment

Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.

And now the most important question. How long does love last?

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 ".....There is more to this romantic love thing. The University of Pavla has also done love research and they maintain that romantic love only lasts one year. They have discovered a brain chemical responsible for the 'first flush of love'. They discovered that it's raised levels of a protein which are linked to "feelings of euphoria and dependence experienced at the start of a relationship." Ah remember the days when you were stupid in love and married that person anyway? In the long run those levels go back to normal and the love actually becomes more stable if it lasts. The love turns deeper and more companionate after the thrill is gone. Now that comes in handy if you have kids because you can pay attention to them....."

How long does love last according to Yahoo! Answer..

 ".........I always refer to this as the honeymoon stage. What you're feeling is infatuation. Its a new relationship and things SEEM perfect. I feel that it takes a long time to really get to know someone. I would say that around 18 months into the relationship, the honeymoon stage dies down. You still want to see each other but you don't necessarily get that "wanna be all over you all the time" feeling. This is when its time to respect each other's space. You start to get used to each other and start bickering over stupid things, if you can last past this time then things should be pretty smooth until about 3 years into the relationship, then it hits a hard note again. If it never ends, lucky for you (maybe) or it could simply be that someone is not being honest about their feelings and thoughts..."

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 So? What's your experience says? Have you ever been in love? You call it love, you feels like love, but are you really in love? And how long will it last? What should you do while it last? With all the adrenaline rush inside your body, none of this question seems reasonable and important but you might want to look back and think again. It just..from my opinion, if you're not serious, why wasting time with something like this. Unless the outcome will make a great different to you.

p/s: haihhh..ape pg2 buta ckp pasal "love" ni.. [actly sbb mata xngantok walau tdo lmbt :P]

another piece of mind speaking

love,

fatima azmi